There was a time that I didn’t believe in the power of goal setting.
I’m not sure why. It probably had something to do with the fact that I felt that if I set the goal, then I had to meet the goal, or I would be a big failure.
Setting goals scared me.
What if I didn’t achieve what I set out for?
Then what?
My husband on the other hand has always been a goal setter. Ever since we were teenagers he has been listing and checking off the things he wanted to achieve. For him, goals have always been a driving motivation toward success.
Over the years, watching him set and attain goals has changed my thinking.
What I have come to realize is that goals should not be feared. Goal setting is all about mindset.
Clarifying what I want out of myself and my life pushes my energy and mindset toward my goals. That’s all it is.
With a clear focus and mindset, what you desire out of life is more likely to be achieved.
It has now become a New Year’s tradition to write down my goals. I write goals for my business, my family, my health and, of course, my marriage.
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Click next to find out what my top two goals are for my marriage in 2017. Do they sound anything like yours?
Very good. Those two goals are constructive. Mine are: 1. To increase our love this year. 2. To share our ideas me and my spouse on every thing we plan to do
We have been married almost 22 years! Wow, it just seems like yesterday that we got married in, of all places, Las Vegas! It was a PLANNED ceremony. We were engaged in November and married in March 1996, after 2 years of dating. We had a 21 year Vow Renewal Ceremony on September 25, 1017 on the beach in Florida. We planned every detail, from the ceremony outline, content, personal
Vows to each other and decorations! My point being, doing this together was a marriage building endeavor. Like communication! That has been, and still is, one of our more challenging aspects to deal with every day. I realized 2 years ago that I had anger issues that were crippling our everyday relationship. To make this short, I also realized that my husband’s communication style was just pausing my buttons. I’ve learned to forgive him and changed my responses to his communication style. I now engaged him, first by looking at him with smiling eyes and lips. That really gets his attention! Then I repeat what he has said to me and then say, ” Is this what you are saying.” The exchange of looking and talking about our views continues until we know what each other
has really thought about the issue. Saying “I’m sorry” has gone a long way in healing our previous disfuntioning communication styles. If I get mad, sometimes I write him a letter so he knows what I’m feeling & thinking! Other times, I just do the smiling eyes and lips approach and say “Really”, and away we go. Since doing our Vow Renewal, our relationship has improved tremendously. I could go on but I’m not trying to write a book. Yes, I definitely believe communication, sex, and quality time together is a great foundation to a better marriage. I put effort into our marriage by sending texts, songs, flirting goes a long ways & making personalized cards for him! Remembering how & why we fell in love, gives me a compass on how to treat him like I did then. The fire is still burning and getting better all the time because of these things. Thank you for reminding us that a good foundation makes a great marriage!
Wow! Amazing Teresa. You have put a lot of work into your marriage and it sounds like it is paying off greatly. That’s wonderful! I love that you have learned strategies on how to react better to his communication style rather than focusing on him changing his style. Way to go and congrats on 21 years!